(..) We create friendships, we create our personas, we create ideas. And creating those things is terrifying. The point is to get people to accept, and enjoy you and like you, and make your impact on the world be a positive one. And there’s no guarantee that that’s going to work. That the way that you create yourself and also things to share with people.. Because you know creating yourself is kind of a thing you create to share with people: It’s a creation, and we don’t think of it that way, and there’s this idea that you should just be yourself.. And I never liked that idea. Of course, you should just be yourself, you shouldn’t try to pretend to be something that is uncomfortable to you. But: What is yourself?
I didn’t get like a little description when I turned thirteen, that said, like, „Here’s the kind of person you are. When you drink out of cups, you stick your pinky out, cause. And you like your hair to be this way. And you’re nerdy so you should wear glasses.“ You don’t get to find out who you are supposed to be. That is not a thing. It would be nice if it was. But also, we’re all sort of creating -and I haven’t really explored this very far, but I find it fascinating, so maybe I’ll make a more complicated video about this in the future- but the idea of „self“ is a creation, and it’s created by the individual who possesses the self.
Now, there are contributions to that, like, each of us creates, based on frameworks: You know, like expectations that our parents or teachers or friends have of us. Those go into our creation of the self, and there are the expectations of culture and society and television and magazine-adds.
And that’s all creation, and just like putting a YouTube video online is terrifying, being a person in the world is terrifying; and talking to someone, being and showing them yourself. And not just yourself-self, but like, the creating you laid on top of yourself.
But then, even -and that’s less terrifying oftentimes- even if the person, the fake-thing you’re creating is less enjoyable, is less cool, than the thing underneath, sometimes it’s better to share that fake-thing; not better, but sometimes it feels better to share that fake-thing, cause at least aren’t judging you-you, they’re judging the fake-you that you’ve put out there for people to look at.
And that’s fascinating, because it’s a terrible thing to do, but it’s entirely inspired by fear, and working, you know, upon.. in that way is never a good idea, like, it’s never a good idea to have all your creations inspired by fear, and that generally turns out to be bad.
But it’s fascinating to think that we will sometimes do that, that we’ll sometimes create this sort of fake-us to share with people, because it’s less scary to share the fake-thing, ‚cause at least then they’re not judging the real thing; the question then of course being what the real thing is:
‚Cause, you know, if you adopt a fake persona, you eventually just start to feel like that person. And that’s especially bad if you’ve just created it as a shell, you know, as a wall, to protect you from other people.
And so, Charlie, it’s one thing to say that you’ve inspired people like me, fellow creators, to say, „Yeah, I mean, when I’m making things it’s really scary!“ (..) I honestly don’t think that that is necessarily Charlie’s problem. I think Charlie’s problem is more like, he holds himself to a very high standard more than the people who watch him hold him to a high standard: Of course, we do like to be entertained by him, but it’s not we’re forever disappointed by a Charlie video. (..)
But it’s also a call-out to all people who create, which includes, all people.
And to say, „Yes, I acknowledge, and we should all acknowledge that we are terrified of not being accepted, of our creations not being accepted.“ And the most important creation that we all have, and that we all share with the world, is the creation of self.
So, we have to share that. And we have to accept that some people aren’t going to like it, and some people are.
But the most important thing is that we create a self that we think is positive, that is in-line with our values, and that creates a better world.
And the very thing about creating selves, is that, if you do it well, you become a good person. And that’s pretty cool.
So, everyone? Keep making cool selves out of yourself. And don’t make fake-selves to protect yourself, and then, on top of all of that, don’t be afraid to share it. Because if we learned anything from Charlie, and from YouTube in general, that people sharing themselves is a really wonderful thing for them and for people who get to watch.
And that goes for friendship as much as it goes for YouTube, even more so.